It is very important how you discipline your child, however, there is no right or wrong answer how parent should do it. All the process depends on you. How you will decide to do it, that way it will be. But if you are in the position where you cannot decide what is right or wrong for you, here are some advices you might want to read.
Everyone experience it
Firstly you should be aware that children between ages three and five should be asserting their independence and testing boundaries. If this does not make any emotional outbursts or defiant episodes any easier to manage, just be sure to remind yourself that this challenging behavior is going to pass eventually.
Ignoring might help
From child’s perspective, any action that gets attention, no matter if it is positive or negative, is definitely worth repeating, so capitulating or scolding may result in an encore performance. Instead of it, you could pretend the bad behavior is not bothering you. Stand next to your little one and wait for him to have it out or if you are in a store, continue shopping somewhere nearby, just to make sure your child is safe. This shows that you will not react to his tantrums.
A display of aggressive behavior is the only exception to the ignoring rule. Violence, for example, should result in the removal of the child from the situation, in simpler words - the time out. About 30 percent of parents find time outs to be ineffective. If you want time out to be at least a little bit affective, make sure it will be boring. It is common among parents to provide real-time explanation for the punishment, but surprisingly, the best thing you can possibly do at the moment is to stop talking and wait to discuss the situation after the time out. Sometimes silence speaks much better than the words. It is important to show your little one that he will have your attention when his behavior will be positive, on the opposite side, he will lose you. By the way, do not make those time outs very long. Three minutes is plenty of time.
Ignore opinions too
While other people might be interested in why you are not punishing your child, but instead choosing to ignore his behavior, you should not be worried. You may explain them what and why you are doing it, also, if you believe it is the right way, do not take any attention to judging opinions. It is obvious parents do worry about what other people think when their little one is acting out, but when you see a mom or dad ignoring that unpleasant freak-out, you will probably want to high-five them. This is the best thing you can do for your child in that kind of moment.
Showing consequences to your child, such as taking away computer or telling your little one he cannot have a dessert if he does not eat dinner is not recommended for preschoolers. Sure, it will work perfectly for older kids who are able to understand the notion of losing something they want. So before school, it is better to avoid this kind of punishment.
Tell everything exact
Let your kids know they did great when they act appropriately, but be sure to name the good behavior specifically. Like telling that you are thankful your child held your hand while crossing the street. If you are too general with your commendations, small children might not understand what exactly they have done well. Naming the praise is more likely to lead to repetition of that specific positive conduct. It might feel quite silly saying everything so exact when it is so clear for you, but it will help you in the future.