Everyone knows that children experience power struggles, however, not so many talks about those snaps parents experience too. We cannot hind the fact they do exist and that we should do something about it. That is why we have made a list of some solutions that you might find useful.
Give yourself a time out
Feeling like you will explode? Just leave the room and head to the one that has a lock in it. This way you will get a moment of reprieve and a child’s shock over your disappearance might be enough to stop his bad behavior. You definitely worked hard enough to deserve those five minutes to listen to your favourite song or just repeat that children are precious gifts just for few times.
Happy moments will outweigh sad ones
When your life feels a little down, think of the happiest moment with each kid, you can possibly remember. Later, when you are getting frustrated, just take that happy memory off the shelf in your mind and be sure to focus on it like your life depends on it. Trust me, it will get better just in a moment.
Fake a little
There will be times when you might not be able to tamp down your emotions and that is completely fine. Just try pretending everything is otherwise. Use a soft, creepily soothing voice until you feel calm and in the end those angry emotions will pass.
Give those little evils over
There is a reason why your children have two parents. If you are about to lose it, let your partner take care of those little bad guys. It is the time to lean on your partner and take a break from the kids. You will return the favour, because there will always be a next time.
Even if it is the last thing you feel like doing, become a clown or maybe an astronaut. Silliness has a way of defusing even the most infuriating situations. This will definitely help for you to clear that cloud above your head too.
Questions might play their part
If you cannot think of any other solution, try putting it to them. You may ask your children why their daddy is so angry. This might help them search their own behavior instead of just trying to find the thing that will keep you from blowing up.
Warn before the explosion
Before snapping, let your kids know you are getting close to the edge and that you are about to start yelling. If they do not get better, at least they were warned.
Use your little ones as a source of ideas
It is totally okay for little ones to realize parents do not have all the answers in the world. So just explain them you are upset and you can even ask them the possible answer. They might come up with a really good solutions, it is probable that those little heads, full of million silly ideas, will give you a great solution to any problem. In the end, whether they have a good idea or not, they will feel more empowered than when you yell.