Just sitting still and trying to finish your work or maybe chatting with your friend, who just came by for an hour or two and a tiny little hand is twitching your sweater? He is asking you those annoying questions and you ask him if he could give you at least a minute to finish any kind of stuff you were doing. And here it goes again, only five minutes have passed and he is back. Your little one probably keeps grabbing you over and over again, is not he? Quickly intervals between each ask shrinks from five minutes to one minute, then to 30 seconds. Not long after it is probable that you will feel like you are losing your mind. And that is the time when you cannot hold it anymore and snap. Perhaps yell a little or just give him your tablet to put his attention elsewhere.
Badgering is obviously a learned behavior. It is the job for parents to take control and make sure that children learn that it is truly not fine to keep asking after you have already said “no” or interfere while anyone is doing something important. So here are some tips you might want to try to get rid of this honestly so annoying behavior.
Talk about it properly
An amazing way to solve this problem is for you to sit down with your little ones and to talk about badgering itself when you are all calm. Do not make a mistake and do not discuss anything about a behavior in the heat of the moment because it can easily turn into a fight. Try explaining that no one likes this kind of behavior ant that it is inappropriate. Tell your child that you will work on it together. By the way, you should know that it is much better to take a little time to tell your little one what he can do instead of always just saying “no” in the moment. When you are talking about it as a very important thing and pointing it out, child will take it more seriously than when you are just saying “no” over and over again.
Yours and your child’s code
Make sure your kids know sometimes you will not be able to answer them immediately. When you are in the middle of an important task or a phone call, they should be aware that they have to wait. You might want to try a code word, which would allow your little ones to know you have heard them, but you are busy, so he will have to wait. It would serve as short version for “you know we have already discussed this”. You can use one word or maybe a hand gesture. Anything you both will agree on is good.
It is very important to be clear and specific that there will be consequences for continued badgering. Like, for example, if your little one asks for extra TV time after he has reached his limit for the day, your code would remind him that he cannot watch TV today anymore because there are rules. If he will not stop, child should know that he will lose the next day’s privileges. The most important thing is to consistently stick to the rules and consequences you set together.
Make sure you communicate enough
You cannot forget to communicate. It is a must to find some time for those eye-to-eye conversations with no electronics, just to talk to your kids and spend some special time with them. It is quite common for badgering to appear, if your little one feels like he does not have enough of your attention. If you tell your child you will talk to him in five minutes, after those five minutes has passed, and not more, it is essential for you to put away your anything you were doing and spend some time with him.