It is obvious that if your children contribute to the mess around the house, they should be the ones who help you tidy it all up. One of the biggest problems children experience is that they do not feel needed. A simple solution to this problem is to help little ones mature into emotionally healthy adults. They just need to feel that their contribution does matter. Chores are a really tangible way to do that and that is why you should use it. If you need any advices how, here are they.
Proper chores for every child
Just because one of your children is very little, does not mean, he cannot help. If he is able to walk, he is able to rule the world. Even the littlest one can pitch in and feel useful. But after all, you should know that the best time to start them working is when they are underfoot in the kitchen. Just put them at the sink and get them to rinse your carrots.
Imperfection is okay
Be sure to remember that your most important goal is not a spotless bathroom, but to help your children grow. Maybe your four-year-old’s dusting will not be perfect, but get your priorities straight and thank him that he did it. Look for what is working and be grateful. Encouragement is a much greater motivator than criticism. You can be sure of that.
Train your troops
Break things down into the simplest steps. Cleaning after dinner involves plenty of steps, that is why you should ask your children help in a little simpler way, like bringing the plates from the table and if they are old enough they might scrape them and put them in the dishwasher.
Be clear about the expected time frame for your child to get the job done and be strong enough to endure a little short-term pain if you have to follow through with a consequence. If your child does not get his chores done, explain him firmly but kindly, that you were hoping he could go to play some games too, but now he must do the chores and will not be able to play. If your child has a really busy week, you could help his come up with a plan to get his chores done another time. Point is, you may teach your little one the importance of taking care of his responsibilities and c consequences which follows.
Taking care of those chores is also a great opportunity for you to connect with your little ones. It is a chance to invite them to be a part of something and to experience the benefit of working together. The main goal is to involve children in choices and decisions.
Hopefully these advices will make your everyday life at least a little bit easier and that the bond between you and your children become even stronger than it was before. Make sure that the chores you all are doing becomes not only a responsibility, but also a fun part of your day that you might really enjoy.